Archives For Performance

Fear

January 23, 2013

Do you recognize fear?

To many, when you hear the word “fear” the image that appears in our mind’s eye is a person cowering from that which they are afraid. But 21st century, 1st world fear is more coy than that. It disguises itself under political correctness, common courtesy and everyday responsibilities.

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Don’t be Part of this “In” Crowd

May 8, 2012

Do you struggle with insecurity, feelings of inferiority and inadequateness? If so, your leadership will be limited. Your insecurity will prevent you from empowering others around you. Chances are you micro-manage your team and rarely show appreciation for their work.

“Effective leadership begins with an emotionally healthy leader. This is because leadership must flow from being and not from doing.” John Maxwell

Your emotional health is your responsibility.

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Making Wise Decisions

February 28, 2012

This is a follow-up to my post on Wisdom.

“In light of my past experiences, in light of my future hopes & dreams & in light of where I am right now what is the wise thing for me to do?”  Pastor Andy Stanley

He was speaking on training your conscience to be sensitive to wisdom issues not just right or wrong issues. You make decisions based on what is prudent now but know you have the freedom to change it later. I’m asking this question in every area of my life.

I’m still adjusting to living in a home. In the 7 years I lived in my previous apartment, I never knew what day the trash was picked up. It wasn’t necessary because the bin was always on the street & could take my trash out whenever I needed to.

I realized I needed to create a check list of things I need to do every weekend, once a month and quarterly for maintaining my home and bring balance to my life.  If I don’t, I’ll spend the next few years responding to the issues caused by my neglect and ignorance. There’s much I’m still learning and I need to create time to learn about maintaining my home.  Using a checklist and creating a few minutes a week to research different aspects of my home is the season I’m in now.

Let’s take apart Pastor Stanley’s quote with another example:

In light of my past experiences…

Whenever I don’t meal plan for the following week and then grocery shop, I find myself eating out more that week or running to the grocery store for the one item I need to cook my meal.

In light of my future hopes and dreams…

I want to maintain my weight by eating those things that are good for me and rotate my diet.

In light of where I am right now…

I need to lose weight and I need to be prudent with my money since I don’t have the excess income as I did a few months ago.

What is the wise thing for me to do?

I need to plan time in my week to research, do menu planning and grocery shop.  For me to do less than this is to refuse to take part in my own success, yet commit to my failure.

Successful leaders are sapient people who know leadership begins with self. How does Pastor Andy Stanley’s question change the decisions you make?

Wisdom

February 21, 2012

We live in a time where right or wrong is constantly debated. When Anthony Weiner scandal broke, debates on Facebook and Twitter ensued regarding weather it was right or wrong to Facebook or tweet people of the opposite sex if you are married. The proper question should have been “is it wise to Facebook or tweet people of the opposite sex if you are married?

Merriam-Webster Dictionary has several definitions for wisdom and here are the definitions I want to focus on…

Wisdom

1. the ability to discern inner qualities and relationships: insights

2. good sense: judgement

I have a bad habit of turning on the TV while I clean and do other chores at home. With today being a holiday I overheard and watched many of the “judge shows.”  Judge Alex, Divorce Court and Judge Judy were a few of them. These judges and shows are full of people who used poor judgement and demand to be made “right” by a judge.

  • A young woman suing a hotel manager because the hotel didn’t provide her with a refrigerator and microwave in her room and therefore she had to order hundreds of dollars of food that wasn’t good for her.

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  • A husband and wife on the verge of divorce yet the husband didn’t see anything “wrong” with his Facebook flirtations and getting other women he’s meeting there to give him money

What is it about the human psyche that seeks to have decisions simplified to right or wrong? It deflects the responsibility  onto the one who decides the rightness or wrongness.  If the young woman who was suing the hotel won the case, the hotel and judge would be the reason she has weight issues. If the judge said that the husband’s Facebook activities were right, then when his wife left it would have been her inability to accept his rightness. In both situations, the young woman and husband, failed to make good decisions based on their goals, values or

I’ve heard several times that Billy Graham made a decision early in life to never be alone with a woman other than his wife. He does this even if he’s riding an elevator alone and woman enters he leaves to not only avoid temptation but to avoid giving anyone an opportunity for an accusation.

There are absolutes in life and there is right & wrong. But as we mature into adults, the majority of decisions we make have more to do with “is it right for me?” or “is it right for the situation and the people involved?”  What is the wise course of action based on where you want to go and your current circumstance?

Wisdom guided by your values and priorities leads to a intentional life without regrets.